LA Peeps! Find a Date and Get a Free Ride!

 

 

I am super excited to announce that one of my favorite dating services is launching in Los Angeles!  Read my review of Coffee Meets Bagel, a free dating site that utilizes your network on Facebook.  Get bagelin’ daters!

Does Miss Singlefied Know Her Shit? Tune in 9/12

 

Now is your time to find out.  On Wednesday 9/12, Miss Singlefied will be interviewed live on morning talk show Good Morning 90210.  Tune in 7-8am PST.  Watch live at FilmOnLA.com or if in the LA area, turn to KILM 64.  Follow Miss Singlefied on Twitter for live updates.

Speed Dating: Only $22!

Remember my personal experience with speed dating?  I still believe it’s a great way to practice your dating skills and be entertained by eclectic people at the same time.  What a fun way to spend a drunken night!  Now’s your chance to try it out at a discounted price.  Holla!

YOU’RE INVITED: The Art of the Date (A Gallery Walk on the LES)

Singlefied readers are invited to another event with free food and drinks, this time co-sponsored by our friends at HowAboutWe.com!  There are only a few spots left, and all the female spots have filled up (must be a good sign).  All the details below:

The Art of the Date:
A Gallery Walk on the Lower East Side
Join us for a night of art, inspired conversation, good company and FREE drinks!
Fly solo and meet other New York daters.

DETAILS:
Check in at the  Lower East Side Visitors Center
54 Orchard Street (btw Grand & Hester)

Participating Galleries:
Lesley Heller Workspace: 54 Orchard St.
Lost Weekend NYC: 45 Orchard St.
Dino Eli Gallery: 81 Hester St (at Orchard St)
Stephan Stoyanov: 29 Orchard St

Thanks to our beverage sponsor, Beck’s!
*Attendees must be 21+ to drink and must provide ID

Thanks to PopChips, official snack of The Art of the Date!
Thanks to Bruschetteria for providing delicious hors d’oeuvres for our daters!
To join in the conversation on Twitter, please use #artofthedate

Register here

 

Chivas Tasting Event: Winner Announced & Date Tips

Wow, some of you guys are so romantical and some of you are just douchey.  It’s all good, because the girls of Singlefied have picked a winner: Aaron H.  Congrats Aaron, you and a guest will be attending the Chivas Tasting Event courtesy of Sparkology!  Check out the winning date idea below, and scroll through to see some of the entries that stood out to us.

WINNING DATE:

Start out in Central Park by surprising her with a lunch picnic including some of her favorite dishes.  Bring extra blankets in case it’s chilly.  After lunch, take her on a dessert tour while walking downtown.  Map out 5-6 bakeries along the way.  At the last bakery, have a pre-planned dessert with a rose attached (set up ahead of time).  She’ll be pleasantly surprised.  Reward all this walking with aperitivo at Casa Nonna, an Italian style happy hour where you have access to a buffet of appetizers with the purchase of a cocktail.  Drop her off in a cab and walk your ass home.

Our verdict: How thoughtful, well-planned, simple, and romantic!  This date requires some pre-planning, but it’ll make any girl impressed and giddy.  And hello dessert tour?  Hell yeah!  Well done, Aaron.  We all want to date you now.

STAND-OUT ENTRIES:

1) 1st date Strbcks in mall, be late so she buys her own drnk, get an iced chai, chat abt life n thn buy af1s while askn 4 input

Our verdict: Yo, we said $100 budget, not $1.50.  And btw, don’t ever be late for a date.

2) The date starts at the Brooklyn Bridge, where you greet her with a single red rose (or other flower;$3-$5). You walk across the bridge to the middle deck and take out some red wine to have a toast (Trader Joe’s wine, $4). Next, onto Flamenco dance lessons at Dance New Amsterdam ($16.50 each). The studio is a few blocks from the bridge. After dance lessons, get onto the 6 train going downtown. This train ride loops back uptown at the last stop, taking you through beautiful, historic City Hall train station that many people don’t know about. The view is very beautiful and romantic. Ride the train until you get to Grand Central (train ride $4.50). Stroll trough Grand Central and then on to Bryant Park. Across from the park, make a stop at Lily O’brien’s for Coffee or Hot Chocolate and receive a free gourmet chocolate with your drink (with a 2 for 1 coupon on their website the cost will be about $3.50). She will appreciate a bargain and the resourcefulness. After coffee, stroll through Times Square and enjoy the lights. Then on to 5 Napkin Burger. Don’t let the name fool you, this restaurant has great food, drinks and atmosphere, at very reasonable prices(entrees range from about $12-$16). The menu includes great sushi, delicious gourmet burgers, salads and other seafood dishes. At this point you should have just enough money to finish the night off with a drink….and that concludes my version of the perfect date for under a $100. With this date I would hope to have given the impression that I am fun, creative, outgoing, and romantic.

Our verdict: We love the romantic and surprising (Flamenco!) aspects of your date, but we do not love you pulling out a 2-for-1 coupon.  There’s nothing wrong with finding a bargain, but make it discreet.

3) While Lincoln Center is mostly known for it’s operas and ballets, it allows for an upscale variation on the tried and true movie dinner date as well. For $20 you can watch a screening of your favorite movie from a year ago followed by a live q&a with the director. Somewhere between the strangely polite audience (a rarity in NYC), the frank discussion with the director (the glitz and glamour of celebrity), and the outraged older woman in the front row berating said director (you are after all still in New York), you the makings of a date her roommates will definitely hear about. For a $10 cab ride you can end up on the corner of 49th and broadway at Hagi. While it’s pretty much as close to Times Square as you can be without technically being in it, the nondescript door filters out any fanny pack toting tourists. First made famous as a watering hole for Bourdain and culinary buddies, the menu features a slew of Japanese delicacies at an affordable price and pitchers cheap enough to never feel guilty about ordering another one.

Our verdict: A Bourdain-worthy restaurant is always a plus, but spending half of the date not talking to each other is a negative.  Save movie dates for a girlfriend, not a girl you’re trying to fuck.

4) Take her to Nobu and tell her she can order whatever she wants.  Throw in a couple bottles of champagne!  Then at the end of dinner, claim that you lost your wallet.   Be convincingly frazzled, then tell her you’ll make it up to her next time.

Our verdict: You’re a dick.

5) The date starts at lunch at an uncrowded Chelsea Market where we whet our appetites by slowly meandering and picking up pieces here and there from the various purveyors.  Inevitably, conversation steers towards food: we notice each other’s reactions to the tasty fare in the storefronts, to the samples of various goodies that we would not have tried normally, but the relaxed atmosphere encourages us to be indulgent.  Lunch in hand, we head southwest to Battery Park and hungrily dig into our makeshift picnic at the park near the World Financial Center.  The sight of moored yachts and sailboats make for a playful backdrop as we share stories of unforgettable meals.

The notion of being on the water on a sunny day grips us so we board the Staten Island Ferry and watch the skyline shrink and appreciate this token act of escapism.  Sea mist and unfamiliar views of familiar places give us a different, thus tastier slice of New York.  Swirls of history, nostalgia and PBS specials well up as we pass by the Statue of Liberty.  Finally, we arrive at Staten Island only to immediately go back and experience the whole thing in reverse.

Traipsing through TriBeCa, we grab a quick Vietnamese iced coffee to fuel us to Columbus park in the heart of Chinatown where we revel in the sensory chaos of amateur Beijing opera, handball, fishmongers and senior citizens showing off their tai chi skills to their grandchildren. We take mental notes as we casually mention tidbits of our travels, pressing for more details when it merits.

Then off to SoHo for a quiet(er) respite where we leaf through the new Visionaire and the photo-laden tomes at Tashen and Phaidon.  Eagerly showing each other images and/or prose that made an impression, we notice some shared tastes in art but more importantly, we take note of the differences that we can discuss later.

Finally, we take the subway to Coney Island. This short 45 minute train ride allows us to get a small gauge of how we would travel together.  We continue our travel talk, while witnessing the dramatic change in scenery from the above ground subway.  Escaping the hustle of Manhattan and emerging in the bustle of southern Brooklyn, we stroll on the boardwalk and determine that Nathan’s hotdogs are indeed better in Coney Island.  The cool sea air is especially romantic at dusk when on the ferris wheel.

Our verdict:  What a wonderfully poetic, scenic and well-scripted date.  However, how many hours do we need for this whole production?  And when can we take a break from all the traveling?  If you’re planning a very involved and active date, make sure to warn her the night before so she wears proper shoes! 

Check out “Sex Diaries” in New York Magazine, real life sex stories from New Yorkers.

Win a Chivas Tasting Event at the Exclusive 1801 Club (Courtesy of Sparkology)

Our friends at Sparkology have given Singlefied readers a chance to win a pair of coveted passes to their Chivas tasting event.  Event details:

• 11/8/11
• Premier access to the 1801 Club (foosball table, poker room)
• Open cocktail hour complimented by hors d’oeurves
• Formal tasting led by trained Chivas brand ambassadors trained in Scotland
• Hot hostesses (my fave)
• And more

To enter, please describe your idea of a perfect date under $100, using 400 words or less.  A panel of hot girls from Singlefied will announce the winner by Saturday, 11/5.  Please use form below.

Here are rules:

• Contest open from noon 11/1 – noon 11/4 EST
  
• This is an all male event; winner’s guest must be male
• The suggested date must be realistic and can be done today…with humans.  The $100 budget is set to eliminate “fly to the moon” and “karaoke with Justin Bieber” type of scenarios.
• Multiple entries per person allowed

Alright boys, let’s see what you come up with.  Make me proud!

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YOU’RE INVITED: Sparkology Pre-Launch Event

Our friends at Sparkology.com have invited Singlefied readers to an exclusive pre-launch party in NYC on 10/22.  All the details below.  I think this is such a great idea and also an awesome chance for you guys to get a great profile picture while sippin’ on some gin and juice.

Sparkology Pre-Launch Party and Photo Event

10/22

1-4pm

The MiMa, MC Level, 450 West 42nd, bw 9 and 10th Ave

*YOU MUST RSVP TO GET IN*

MESSAGE FROM HOST

It’s official: You, our inaugural members and guests, are invited to join us for our launch mixer and photo session this Saturday.

The most important part of your image is your photo: Hannah Palmer Egan and Olivia Hall of Caras TriBeCa, a downtown beauty and photo studio, will take professional headshot and full-body photos that you can keep

Make-up by Melissa DiScala featuring MAC products will help you look your best

Vodka and mixed drinks provided by our sponsor Voli, the world’s first low calorie vodka

Plenty of wine and champagne to get you camera-ready

Beer provided by our sponsor Blue State Beer

Delicious catered hors d’oeuvres

Photos will be taken in natural light on the Terrace.  Please arrive early to ensure you get time with photographer
Best of all: kick back and relax with other ladies and gentlemen of Sparkology.  To join the invite-only community, use Singlefied’s private code.

***Guests are welcome but RSVP is required.  Please email: events@sparkology.com and mention you were referred by Singlefied.  This is a premier venue – if you aren’t on the list, you aren’t getting in.***

Please dress ready for the camera.

Check out “Sex Diaries” in New York Magazine, real life sex stories from New Yorkers.

The Lone Wolf: Lessons Learned from Traffic Light Party

Thank you to everyone who was able to make it out to our Traffic Light Party.  For more party photos, check out our Facebook page.  It was a huge success and thanks to Stoli for sponsoring a couple rounds of free draaanks!  I wanted to create a different vibe this time than the No Pants Party, so it started earlier to attract the Happy Hour crowd and there was no dancing.  I noticed that this time, there were a lot more people who came alone, props to those lone wolves!  However, I noticed 2 very differing types of guys who came alone:

1) I’m a social wolf.  “I came to have a good time and to meet new people.  I knew I would have to make more of an effort but a couple drinks in me, I’m good to approach anybody.  You know what, I’m up for new experiences and I’m interested to see what tonight brings.”

2) I’m a brooding wolf.  “I didn’t want to come alone but it just worked out that way.  I don’t know anybody here so here I am, looking awkward by myself.  This sucks.  How come there are no ice breakers or introductions?  How am I suppose to meet anybody new here?  I’m just going to stand in the corner and slip out when no one’s looking.”

Guys, I know how hard it is to go to a social event by yourself and not know anybody.  But it is also great practice for you to overcome social awkwardness.  Here’s what you should do next time you find yourself in a similar situation:

1) Breathe.  When we get nervous, our heart beats faster and we have a tendency to hold our breath, which will lead to a pounding headache due to the lack of oxygen flow into your head.  Dude, if you have a massive headache, of course you’re not going to have a good time.  Take a deep breath in, then slowly exhale.  It’ll relax you and your pit stains won’t be as obvious.

2) Get a drink.  Whether you go hard with a Long Island Iced Tea or start slow with even a glass of water, just get something where your mouth and hands can be occupied.  A lot of times, awkwardness stems from not knowing what to do with our limbs, so we end up in these strange standing positions that aren’t sexy.  Girls want to see a guy who is relaxed and willing to have a good time.  A drink in hand is a good indication of that.

3) Assess the situation.  Observe the scene first.  Who’s the host?  Who came with friends?  Where’s the bathroom?  Who came alone?  Who’s coupled off?  Who’s single (which, at a Traffic Light Party, just watch for the GREEN’s)?  Familiarizing yourself with the environment will not only give you a better sense of what’s going on, but your brain will automatically adjust from “strange territory mode” to “familiar mode.”

4) Buddy up.  If you showed up alone, chances are, some other dude showed up alone too.  Spot one of those guys and chat him up.  Not like sexually, but, “Hey, how did you hear about this party?”  Finding a buddy will help you build your wolf pack mentality; building your confidence.  And later, when you tell a girl that you and your friend met for the first time tonight, she’ll be super impressed by your bold attitude.  Girls want to know that their man will be OK if left alone at a party while she’s catching up with her friends.  Believe it or not, most guys are not comfortable with this.

5) Find the gays.  I’ve always preached that the gays make the best wingmen.  Well, this is the perfect situation to use their powers.  They love it when straight men approach them, so find a group of gays and start a conversation.  No need to gay-up yourself or go extreme macho (like a lot of guys), just be yourself and act like you’re just hanging out with your buds.  Then, maybe ask them if they know the hot girl in the corner, or they have any girlfriends coming.  The gays love setting people up, so if they like you enough, they’ll find a way to have you meet the girl you’ve been digging.  And trust me, if the gays think you’re cute, that’s the ultimate compliment.

6) Talk to the host.  There’s always a host or promoter.  Talk to that person.  Ask to get on their mailing list or to keep you in mind for their next event.  Friend them on Facebook.  Connecting with the host is like connecting with everyone at the party.  If he/she likes you enough, you will be in really good hands.

Remember, don’t ever be ashamed of being a lone wolf, but it’s all about your attitude!   If you intend on being a brooding wolf, you might as well just stay home.

Singlefied Presents: Traffic Light Party

It is time again for Singlefied’s monthly themed parties in NYC!

When: Thursday, 6/23/11, 8pm – 2am

Where:  Traffic Bar & Lounge
986 2nd Avenue (52nd/53rd)
New York, NY

Because our NO PANTS party was such a success, we’re gonna keep the monthly themed parties goin’! This time, Singlefied.com presents Traffic Light Party at Traffic, which means you wear:

Red = Taken
Green = Single
Yellow = Lookin’ to upgrade

Stoli specials all night long!! Special red, green and yellow drinks TBD. We’ll have a designated area for us at Traffic.

A special thanks to Lauren Musselman

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Sponsorship Opportunities

Manimals: Lessons Learned from Singlefied’s NO PANTS Party

The Singlefied “NO PANTS” Cinco de Mayo party was a huge success and a big thanks to all who were able to make it and take your pants off.  Also, the BIGGEST thanks to DJ Chuckdizzle for keepin’ the party sexy.

Now, here’s a little secret: I had a spy at the party.  This person, we’ll call “Moose,” went around all night (sober) observing the pick-up scene.  Before I reveal Moose’s findings, according to the book The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love, there are 4 given species of males at any given social gathering:

1) He-Wolf: Travels in a pack of bros.  Aggressive yet guarded.

2) Manda: Not into playing games.  Ultimate good guy.

3) Manther: Bad-boy flirt.  Loses interest easily.

4) Guyena: Loudest and funniest, but very insecure.  Needs attention.

Although these 4 species were present at our party, I’d like to do my own variation according to Moose’s findings:

1) The Frat Boy: He’s a cross between the He-Wolf and the Manther.  He travels in packs and there’s some serious bromance with his group of friends.  He’s not afraid to show his “I’m so straight” homo tendencies, such as male-to-male ass slapping and dry humping.  The Frat Boy gets louder, wilder, and more primal as the night goes on.  He doesn’t care if he goes home alone, because he won’t be going home alone, his bros will be with him.

How girls reacted to him:  They thought he was fun, outgoing, and the life of the party!  Until…they got him alone.  The Frat Boy without his posse was a real dud without much substance.  Or, he was just super shy.  Either way, he needed to grow some balls instead of borrowing his buddy’s.

2) The Predator: The shameless Manther.  To him, a party is a number’s game.  The more girls he attacks, the higher his chances are of scoring.  He’s an equal opportunity predator, meaning he doesn’t discriminate between the ugly vs pretty, old vs young, fat vs skinny, and female vs passable-female.  He’ll cop a feel wherever he can and with enough intoxication, he thinks, “a vagina is a vagina.”  His entire goal is to NOT GO HOME ALONE.

How girls reacted to him: They expected someone like him to be at a party so they let him be the creeper that he was.  It was amusing and entertaining watching him plow through groups of women only to be rejected by even the girl who hadn’t had sex in 10 years.  The girls let him grind up on them and maybe even grab their ass, but nobody wanted to go home with him.  Not because he was creepy or that his boner was out for a walk, but because he didn’t single out any girl to make her feel special.

3) The Peanut Gallery: He is the all-talk Manther without the walk, and he’s half Guyena too.  He stands in the corner with his buddies evaluating and rating chicks all night.  “Yeah, she’s hot, I’d like to bend her over and rip off her miniskirt.”  “Dude, her friend is busted but I’d fuck that tight ass.”  The Peanut Gallery has all sorts of color commentary sprinkled with porn verbiage and animated gestures.  He talks like he’s the shit but he won’t ever leave his corner, until the end of the night when he leaves alone,  muttering “Lame party.”

How girls reacted to him:  “Wait, he was at the party?”

4) The Lone Wolf: He’s the Manda-Guyena.  He IS the life of the party, dancing with all different groups, making his rounds, taking shots with the bartender, fist-bumping the DJ, and bear hugging his buddies.  He comes to parties alone because he knows he has no problem making new friends.  He doesn’t need a pack, liquid courage or witty lines.  He just loves people.  He also loves women and likes to half-ass hit on them.  Example: “Girl I like it when you drop it like it’s hot.” And then he immediately follows it up with, “Now watch me drop it like it’s hot.” [INSERT WILL FERRELL DANCE MOVE]

How girls reacted to him:  They loved him, how could they not?  He’s fun, positive and hilarious.  Plus, he’s never creepy.  But they almost found him a little asexual because he never tried to hit on anybody.  The Lone Wolf was automatically filed under the “FRIEND” folder.

5) The Magician: He’s a Manda-Panther who stands in the background for most of the night, observing the scene and sussing out the situation.  He picks his targets early in the evening and keeps his eye on them throughout the night.  He’s not in a rush to make a move but he’s confident he will make a move.  The Magician is having a good time with his friends until he finds the most opportune time to make his appearance.

How girls reacted to him: None of the girls really noticed him until later in the evening when they’ve all been through the ringer with the aforementioned dudes.  The Frat Boy bowed out early because his friends wanted to leave.  He couldn’t stand to be away from his boyfriends.  The Predator exhausted his options and went to another bar to find more intoxicated victims.  The Peanut Gallery…well…hasn’t left his corner.  And now the target is dancing with her friends and The Lone Wolf, who she’s already calling her BFF.  POOF!  The Magician appears right around Magic Hour, swoops in on his #1 pick and she thinks he’s a breath of fresh air.  The Magician then pulls a disappearing act with the girl he’s had his eye on all night.

What did we learn from the NO PANTS party?

– Don’t be a douche and wear pants to a NO PANTS party

– Don’t be too focused on your game that you forget to have a good time with your friends

– Don’t be too eager to hit on someone too early in the night

– But, do make a move eventually.  Standing in the corner making snarky remarks will get you into nobody’s pants, especially at a NO PANTS party.

Check out more NO PANTS party photos on our Facebook page!