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Thank you to everyone who was able to make it out to our Traffic Light Party.  For more party photos, check out our Facebook page.  It was a huge success and thanks to Stoli for sponsoring a couple rounds of free draaanks!  I wanted to create a different vibe this time than the No Pants Party, so it started earlier to attract the Happy Hour crowd and there was no dancing.  I noticed that this time, there were a lot more people who came alone, props to those lone wolves!  However, I noticed 2 very differing types of guys who came alone:

1) I’m a social wolf.¬† “I came to have a good time and to meet new people.¬† I knew I would have to make more of an effort but a couple drinks in me, I’m good to approach anybody.¬† You know what, I’m up for new experiences and I’m interested to see what tonight brings.”

2) I’m a brooding wolf.¬† “I didn’t want to come alone but it just worked out that way.¬† I don’t know anybody here so here I am, looking awkward by myself.¬† This sucks.¬† How come there are no ice breakers or introductions?¬† How am I suppose to meet anybody new here?¬† I’m just going to stand in the corner and slip out when no one’s looking.”

Guys, I know how hard it is to go to a social event by yourself and not know anybody.¬† But it is also great practice for you to overcome social awkwardness.¬† Here’s what you should do next time you find yourself in a similar situation:

1) Breathe.¬† When we get nervous, our heart beats faster and we have a tendency to hold our breath, which will lead to a pounding headache due to the lack of oxygen flow into your head.¬† Dude, if you have a massive headache, of course you’re not going to have a good time.¬† Take a deep breath in, then slowly exhale.¬† It’ll relax you and your pit stains won’t be as obvious.

2) Get a drink.¬† Whether you go hard with a Long Island Iced Tea or start slow with even a glass of water, just get something where your mouth and hands can be occupied.¬† A lot of times, awkwardness stems from not knowing what to do with our limbs, so we end up in these strange standing positions that aren’t sexy.¬† Girls want to see a guy who is relaxed and willing to have a good time.¬† A drink in hand is a good indication of that.

3) Assess the situation.¬† Observe the scene first.¬† Who’s the host?¬† Who came with friends?¬† Where’s the bathroom?¬† Who came alone?¬† Who’s coupled off?¬† Who’s single (which, at a Traffic Light Party, just watch for the GREEN’s)?¬† Familiarizing yourself with the environment will not only give you a better sense of what’s going on, but your brain will automatically adjust from “strange territory mode” to “familiar mode.”

4) Buddy up.¬† If you showed up alone, chances are, some other dude showed up alone too.¬† Spot one of those guys and chat him up.¬† Not like sexually, but, “Hey, how did you hear about this party?”¬† Finding a buddy will help you build your wolf pack mentality; building your confidence.¬† And later, when you tell a girl that you and your friend met for the first time tonight, she’ll be super impressed by your bold attitude.¬† Girls want to know that their man will be OK if left alone at a party while she’s catching up with her friends.¬† Believe it or not, most guys are not comfortable with this.

5) Find the gays.¬† I’ve always preached that the gays make the best wingmen.¬† Well, this is the perfect situation to use their powers.¬† They love it when straight men approach them, so find a group of gays and start a conversation.¬† No need to gay-up yourself or go extreme macho (like a lot of guys), just be yourself and act like you’re just hanging out with your buds.¬† Then, maybe ask them if they know the hot girl in the corner, or they have any girlfriends coming.¬† The gays love setting people up, so if they like you enough, they’ll find a way to have you meet the girl you’ve been digging.¬† And trust me, if the gays think you’re cute, that’s the ultimate compliment.

6) Talk to the host.¬† There’s always a host or promoter.¬† Talk to that person.¬† Ask to get on their mailing list or to keep you in mind for their next event.¬† Friend them on Facebook.¬† Connecting with the host is like connecting with everyone at the party.¬† If he/she likes you enough, you will be in really good hands.

Remember, don’t ever be ashamed of being a lone wolf, but it’s all about your attitude! ¬† If you intend on being a brooding wolf, you might as well just stay home.