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This post is dedicated to Ryan.

I recently learned of some sad news about a guy friend of mine whom I lost touch with. I want to give a quick shout out to Weave for reaching out to me despite having to deliver some tragic news. I learned that my friend had passed away due to a battle with drugs but it also goes deeper than that. He’s someone who was battling some mental demons while we were close friends and I failed to see all of the signs. And this leads me to a pretty serious topic that I want to discuss. I do think men have it harder in dating, and in hard times, because we as a society have failed you. The root of the issue is mental health and I invite more people to talk about their experiences with their mental health issues…

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You read that right. The online dating market is saturated and it’s only natural that we’ll process to the next step. Could that be virtual reality? Believe it or not, many VR platforms are starting to build out their social VR technology. Alongside haptic technology, these social VR prototypes will enable people to interact with each other in a virtual world. You can feel a hug. You can feel a pinch. You can either feel penetration. Yup, VR sex is exploding! (pun intended)

So…that’s where I come in. As the host of the Dateable Podcast, my team and I have assembled an amazing panel for South by Southwest next year called “The Future of Online Dating with VR.” Panelists include Amanda Bradford, Founder of The League dating app who has already experimented with VR dating and is in talks of building out the platform for her app. In the anti-VR camp, we have David Cruz, former matchmaker on the Millionaire Matchmaker with Patti Stanger! He believes that NOTHING can replace IRL connections. And last but not least, we have an expert “dater,” Matteson Perry, who documented his year-long dating journey to find his now wife in the book, “Available: A Memoir of Heartbreak, Hookups, Love and Brunch.” The panel will be moderated by yours truly, Miss Singlefied.

To get us to SXSW, we need YOUR vote, which counts for 30% of the final decision. Click here to upvote. I’d soooo greatly appreciate it!

And while you’re at it, here are a few more unrelated panels that may be of interest to your tech-savvy folks:

Insuring Your Self-Driving Car

Identity Storytelling in the Digital Age

Blockchain and Its Impact on Early Childhood Education

Hi! I’m back…as a podcast!

Posted: 12/23/2016 by Singlefied in Uncategorized

facebook_image2Hi daters!  While I will still keep this blog active, I think you may want to check out my newest dating venture – the Date/able Podcast!  And you guessed it, it’s a show all about modern dating.  On each episode, my co-host and I dissect a dating story.  Some of bizarre, some are inspirational, and some are down right shocking.  Either way, you’ll learn something each time and be glad to know you’re not in this alone!

Recently we were featured in the Huffington Post, Thought Catalog, and UpOut SF.  But don’t take their word for it, go check it out for yourself: Dateablepodcast.com

http://www.Singlefied.com – DATING ADVICE: She acts like your girlfriend but claims she isn’t. Why? (DATING ADVICE FOR GUYS)

She holds your hand, is affectionate, and introduces you to all her friends. She certainly acts like your girlfriend, but claims she’s not! Why is she acting that way? Is she leading you on? Miss Singlefied let’s you know what’s up.

Dating can get really confusing when you don’t establish what your relationship is. It sounds silly, why does love and affection need to be verbally established? Well, that’s how you establish boundaries and standards. Without communicating these, it is easy for two people not be on the same page. And when two people are not on the same page, one person is bound to get hurt. Think about it, if there were no rules in sports, then people would able to do all sorts of things to win a game. But it’s only when these rules are established, then people know what is within boundaries. The same goes for relationships. What may be OK to one person may not be OK to the other. Remember, in the grand scheme of things, the person you’re hanging out with is barely a stranger. She hasn’t known you all your life. So how do you expect that you’ll both be on the same page with the same thoughts and ideas of what is good for a relationship. Before you start accusing someone of leading you on or sending you mixed messages, Miss Singlefied in this video shows you what you have the right to feel. You may just rethink your relationships!

Music as follows:
1) Cut Beat 100 by Sahmaoui Abdessamie under the Creative Commons Attributions License available at http://free-loops.com/8603-cut-beat-100.html

2) Rock N Knock by Sahmaoui Abdessamie under the Creative Commons Attributions License available at: http://free-loops.com/8602-rock-n-knock-.html

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Ask your dating questions at: http://www.Singlefied.com or tweet @SinglefiedYue. Yue Xu, aka Miss Singlefied, is an established dating coach for men from NYC, LA and Beijing. She is the founder and advocate of the SoberFirstKiss movement. #soberfirstkiss

Latest press featuring Miss Singlefied:
http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/ways-plays-hard-get

https://thebucketlistlife.com/49-knowing-what-you-want-in-a-relationship-with-dating-coach-yue-xu/

http://www.datingadvice.com/for-men/13-best-dating-vloggers-of-2014

http://www.match.com/magazine/article/13193/How-Women-Reset-A-Bad-Date/

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-24371673

http://nypost.com/2011/07/08/a-girl-in-every-borough/

http://www.thebeijinger.com/blog/2012/08/14/rules-expat-dating-ask-yue-xu

http://www.hercampus.com/love/dating-hooking/dating-younger-what-freshman-guys-really-think-you?page=6

http://life2pointoh.com/2011/07/first-date-advice/

http://www.globaltimes.cn/content/728223.shtml

http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi/how-to-handle-a-breakup.html

http://www.cmn.com/2012/10/proper-digital-breakup-etiquette-dear-john-2-0/

http://www.examiner.com/article/how-to-make-your-new-year-s-eve-kiss-memorable-and-special

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Our weekend post comes from Badoo.com (combining social networking and online dating):

SINGLETONS! It’s time to come out of the cupboards, shimmy out of the shadows, dance out of the darkness and make yourself known to the world at large. If it wasn’t already, we want to declare it official; online dating has finally shaken off the stigma! Your mom uses it, your grandpa uses it, half of your co-workers and all your single college buddies are signed up. It’s in the mainstream press, on the TV, all over the NASDAQ and built in to your cellphone. The age of digital love has finally arrived.

CHEQUERED PAST

It’s true that the journey has been a long one, fraught with danger for all those who first explored this uncharted territory. Back in the early 80s, prehistoric companies like CompuServe marketed chat through a computer and modem as a ‘CB simulator’, appealing to all those wannabe truckers who were still clinging on to the CB radio craze of the mid-1970s. It just goes to show that, even before the miracle of the Internet, lonely hearts still turned to technology as a way to small-talk with anonymous strangers in a weird language that their parents didn’t understand.

NERD IS THE WORD

Unfortunately, my previous sentence pretty much sums up the mainstream attitude towards Internet chat from its conception in the mid-80s through the enormous rise in chat room activity during the late 90s and even up to very recent times. The assumption was that if you met people online then you simply weren’t capable of ‘normal’ face-to-face social interaction and had no hope of ever forming a fulfilling relationship with anybody. With that sort of backward, close-minded attitude, how on Earth did mankind ever invent something as open and full of glimmering potential as the World Wide Web?

DATING: REBOOTED

Fast forward to the last quarter of 2012 and it seems we have created a Bizarro world; a sort of parallel universe which, if visited by someone from fifteen years ago, would seem on the surface to be not much different. War in the Middle East, check; global recession, no surprise there…but wait…online dating is ACCEPTABLE now?! It might seem hard to believe to our time-travelling counterpart but if you look at the evidence it is shocking that we ever doubted the power of the Internet to meet someone special.

MEANT TO BE

Long distance relationships are by no means a modern invention; in ye days of olde couples would be torn apart by the need to work, escape poverty and disease or even by war. Tradition dictated that lovers would marry at a tender age and some spent the majority of their marriage apart; it’s safe to say that they would have killed to have AOL instant messenger for even one day. Another popular tradition was arranged marriage, and if your local farmer had ugly daughters then there was no way out for you. In this age of worldwide commerce, dad has a lot more scope to choose a business partner with good genetics.

SCREENING PROCESS

It’s no secret that some relationships can fall apart when they climb those all-important stairs to the bedroom. When you get comfortable enough to reveal that kinkier-than-thou, don’t-tell-mother fetish to your one and only, the sad truth is that they might run a mile. However in today’s society you can hold your head up high, walk straight into the online community that suits your naughty fantasy best and meet like-minded people with whom sex may well be worth moving cross-country for. If it’s not, there are a load more fish byting in the digital sea.

DIGITAL FRONTIERS

If you’re reading this, you may have been an early adopter who has loved and lost on eHarmony and lived to tell the tale, or perhaps you were a one-time naysayer who saw the light, took the plunge and now doesn’t leave home without your Badoo mobile app. Either way, tastes have changed worldwide and what was a fringe endeavour is now a mainstream way of life because of constant improvement driven by you; the user. So keep chatting, keep flirting and keep on making the online dating scene an exciting movement to be a part of. After all, to the incumbent generation a world without online dating is simply history.

This article was written by Barry Cooke. Barry is a respected usability consultant who has been working in the Internet market for over 15 years in a number of different sectors. He is also a social media expert and a passionate user of social networks such as Twitter and Badoo.

Results of the Dating Survey are in!  We had 100 participants: 41% female and 59% male.  The results are fascinating and somewhat surprising.

*In the survey, participants were asked to give their demographic info (age, location, occupation, employment status, relationship status and sexual preference) and then rank the following qualities in order of importance when evaluating a potential mate: Looks, Personality/Sense of Humor, Job/Salary, Intelligence/Education, and Good in Bed.  Then they were asked to answer the same question according to how they think their opposite sex would respond (this question was added after the survey launched so 10% of participants did not get to answer this question).

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