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Lucky for all of us suckers, Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday this year, which means Friday night is going to be one big pink, cheesy orgy. This year, I keep getting asked the same question from you guys over and over again. So, in the interest of time (and my sanity), let me answer it in a post.
“I just started dating a girl and we’re not serious yet. I don’t think it’s appropriate to make a grand gesture for Valentine’s Day. Is it OK if I just not celebrate it with her?”
“I’ve been seeing this girl I really like. She anti-Valentine’s Day and already told me she doesn’t like all the cheesy gestures. Should I just take her word for it and not celebrate it with her?”
It doesn’t matter what scenario you’re in, if you are seeing someone and you happen to LIKE this person, YES you should do something for Valentine’s Day. Here’s the reason why: It really doesn’t matter what she tells you about her feelings toward the “holiday,” if you like her, wouldn’t you want to do something nice for her? Think of Valentine’s Day as just another opportunity to show her that you like her. Even if she’s verbally against everything V-day stands for, no girl will ever turn down a nice gesture. In other words, it can’t give you negative points.
1) If you just started seeing someone new, make a smaller, but meaningful, gesture. Do something or tailor something to her interests. And to make it more casual, go for an activity-based date, such as a hike or a trip to the zoo. TIP: It doesn’t always have to be dinner, chocolate and flowers.
2) If you are dating a girl who doesn’t like the cheesiness factor of Valentine’s Day, then do something non-traditional! Maybe something stems from an inside joke, or go out and make fun of the cheesiness that’s happening. TIP: JUST DO SOMETHING. Every girl still wants to be recognized that day, whether she wants to admit to it or not.
And for those of you who are single for V-day, consider getting some heart candies for all of your female co-workers (the way we used do it in school). The better “in” you have with the females around you, the better the chance they’ll set you up with their very eligible single friends.
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The Tinder app will do exactly what it’s designed to do: match people who want to hook up. But there are some more pros and cons that I describe below. The most interesting thing I think Tinder will accomplish is that it will redefine dating. People already think they’re “dating around” just because they’re messaging right-swiped matches on their phone. Pretty soon our virtual love lives will be more successful than our real love lives, creating all kinds of Asbergerian social effects.
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When was the last time you had a sober first kiss? I mean an organic, raw meeting of the lips without a drop of alcohol, or a puff, a syringe, a bump…or whatever your choice may be. Think about it. And then try to recall what it felt like.
I’m not going to bore you with all the stories I’ve been hearing in the last couple of years involving drunken first kisses, ultimately leading to dragged out relationships. It happens. And it happens to the best of us.
So, I’m here to start a revolution: #SoberFirstKiss. My theory is that your first kiss with someone is the most telling of your chemistry with each other. And chemistry is like food to any relationship. Without it, a relationship will starve to death. However, alcohol (and other fun enablers) impair our judgment. At some point, drunken makeout sessions become more about occupying our mouths, as opposed to enjoying the person we’re swapping saliva with.
A sober first kiss is awkward, nerve-wracking, exciting, and RAW. Your senses are heightened as you feel, in slow-mo, every touch, every moan, and every heart beat. Frankly, you have plenty of time to decide whether you want to go through with the kiss or not. I personally went through this a couple months ago. It was like the climax of a typical romcom where our bodies gravitated closer, we decided who was going to take which side, and just as our lips were about to meet, I called “time out.” I was extremely sober and I was extremely sure that I didn’t want to kiss him. And we never saw each other again. Now, if I had a couple mojitos in me, I’d probably still be trying to “make it work.”
The deal is, I think we waste too much time dating the wrong people, because we get off on the wrong foot (lip). You get plenty of information about a person on a first date and you certainly get sufficient information from a sober first kiss. So, let’s not fuck it up in the beginning. There’s either chemistry or there isn’t.
Save time. Save energy. Save saliva. #SoberFirstKiss.
Try out sober kissing at a speed dating event. Miss Singlefied recommends Hurry Date