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Dating in China changes faster than these half-assed skyscrapers that get built. This time around, I’m learning more about the deceasing stock of foreigners (white guys), how local girls are getting smarter, and why Confucius won’t let Chinese guys go for white girls. I was told that if you get offended, I’m doing my job right. Here’s a podcast I was invited to do by the Economic Observer all about dating in china.
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The Tinder app will do exactly what it’s designed to do: match people who want to hook up. But there are some more pros and cons that I describe below. The most interesting thing I think Tinder will accomplish is that it will redefine dating. People already think they’re “dating around” just because they’re messaging right-swiped matches on their phone. Pretty soon our virtual love lives will be more successful than our real love lives, creating all kinds of Asbergerian social effects.
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When was the last time you had a sober first kiss? I mean an organic, raw meeting of the lips without a drop of alcohol, or a puff, a syringe, a bump…or whatever your choice may be. Think about it. And then try to recall what it felt like.
I’m not going to bore you with all the stories I’ve been hearing in the last couple of years involving drunken first kisses, ultimately leading to dragged out relationships. It happens. And it happens to the best of us.
So, I’m here to start a revolution: #SoberFirstKiss. My theory is that your first kiss with someone is the most telling of your chemistry with each other. And chemistry is like food to any relationship. Without it, a relationship will starve to death. However, alcohol (and other fun enablers) impair our judgment. At some point, drunken makeout sessions become more about occupying our mouths, as opposed to enjoying the person we’re swapping saliva with.
A sober first kiss is awkward, nerve-wracking, exciting, and RAW. Your senses are heightened as you feel, in slow-mo, every touch, every moan, and every heart beat. Frankly, you have plenty of time to decide whether you want to go through with the kiss or not. I personally went through this a couple months ago. It was like the climax of a typical romcom where our bodies gravitated closer, we decided who was going to take which side, and just as our lips were about to meet, I called “time out.” I was extremely sober and I was extremely sure that I didn’t want to kiss him. And we never saw each other again. Now, if I had a couple mojitos in me, I’d probably still be trying to “make it work.”
The deal is, I think we waste too much time dating the wrong people, because we get off on the wrong foot (lip). You get plenty of information about a person on a first date and you certainly get sufficient information from a sober first kiss. So, let’s not fuck it up in the beginning. There’s either chemistry or there isn’t.
Save time. Save energy. Save saliva. #SoberFirstKiss.
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