Many of my clients are newly singles who’ve recently gotten out of long term relationships. I know some of you are in the same boat. You were in the comfort of the same vagina for the past X years and now you’re dropped off into this strange land of new hoohas where you have to fend for yourself. You are a Born Again Dater.
When I started dating after ending a 5 year relationship last year, I had culture shock. Although I had witnessed other people’s dating stories, I did not know what the hell I was doing.
Dating is a part of society and it changes with societal shifts. If you are “new” to dating, it’s wise to take some time to examine the dating environment first. How do people meet? How do you ask someone out? What do people do on a first date? How do you end a date? These are all valid changes that have taken place throughout the years. Also, the nature of dating changes with age. “Going out” at 28 holds a lot more weight than it did at 23.
The biggest mistake you can make as a Born Again Dater is to jump into another relationship right away. If you can’t handle being by yourself, you’re going to attract the same type of girl. You guys will quickly become co-dependent, and before you know it, you’re in a committed relationship without having played the field. This cycle will repeat until you hit your mid-life-crisis and cheat on your wife with a stripper, buy a motorcycle and start a rock band.
Trust me, I’ve seen it happen once too many times.