Posts Tagged ‘ex’

Girls of Christmas Past

Posted: 12/23/2010 by Singlefied in Dating
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Are you thinking about an ex or a girl from the past during the holidays?  You’re in good company.  It’s always around this time of the year that I get guys who want me to help them get an ex back, or help them get over someone from their past.  This is how I see it: this is the time of the year for personal reflection.  Come the new year, go back to your scratching and burping routine.  But these couple of days, it’s common for you to think about people who have made some kind of impact in your life.  If an ex or a former girl fling comes to mind, I would advise you to reach out to them.  This is the ONLY time where the Closing Ex-Files rule does not apply because you’re allowed a couple days of emotional vulnerability.  Also, people during this time are more welcoming of blasts from the past, and even if you two have a quick conversation just to reminisce, it will dissolve some of your holiday blues.

If reconnecting is out of the question for you, maybe your cock is lonely.  Go exercise Magic Hour or ask Santa for porn.  If all else fails, I hear alcohol is single.

Close the Ex-Files

Posted: 12/16/2010 by Singlefied in Dating
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As humans, we tend to hold on to things, especially memories of the past. That is why it’s hard for us to get rid of photos, souvenirs and memorabilia because these things trigger tangible memories. Same goes for your ex. More guys than girls still keep in touch with their most recent ex and some even hang out on a regular basis. My friend Wendy was dating a guy who kept in touch with all of his ex-girlfriends. He even had pictures of him and all of his has-been girlfriends on his Facebook for the whole world to see. She stopped seeing him after 2 weeks.

Many people will disagree with me on this, but I truly believe once you break up, you should cut off all communication. Here are my top reasons for closing your ex-files:

1) Hanging out with an ex will constantly remind you of a failed relationship. Nobody wants to be reminded of their failures.

2) The presence of an ex will trigger your past behavior. The man you were. Which, in turn, holds you back from being the man you can become.  We’re all works in progress, so why take 2 steps back when you’ve just taken 2 steps forward?

3) Whether you insist on there being no sexual chemistry whatsoever between you and your former lover, the new girl you want to date will never believe you.  Why?  Everyone has had ex-sex at some point in their life.  There will always be a lingering suspicion that you may/still are hooking up with your ex.  Even if you’re not, why create this unnecessary drama?

4) You’re setting yourself up to getting hurt.  You think you’re over her.  It’s all dandy right now when both of you are single.  But what if one day you see her holding hands with some guy and tells you she can no longer hang out with you?  Wouldn’t you feel like such a loser?!

5) Guys often say to me, “I still want to be friends with my ex because she’s fun to hang out with.”  Why?  You have no other friends to hang out with?  Are your friends not fun?!  You have enough friends.  No need to cling on to one that comes with baggage.

6) To put it bluntly: new pussy is better.  No need to revisit the land of been-there-done-that.

Now, I don’t think you have to cut off communication from you ex FOREVER.  If she was a big part of your life or meant a lot to you, you guys will naturally find your way into a platonic friendship zone when the time is right for BOTH parties involved.  If with all this said and you still want to hang on to your ex, maybe you don’t really want her to be an ex.