Courtesy Call, Please

Posted: 12/20/2010 by Singlefied in Dating
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In an age of text messages, emails, BBM, IM and social networking, it seems that people rarely make phone calls anymore.  I, for one, hate talking on the phone.  However, I find that the biggest mistake many guys make in the “chase” phase is failure to make that courtesy call.  Most of the girls I know agree that it’s a MUST to first call a girl for that first date.  Yup, it’s super awkward and there’s the necessary small talk that nobody gives a shit about, but it shows that you respect the girl enough to make that extra effort.

After that initial courtesy call, texting and BBMing (etc) is totally acceptable.  It’s still nice to sprinkle in a phone call here and there, but not as crucial.

The other issue many of my guy clients face is leaving voicemails.  I am totally in agreement.  You’re trusting a device to record your one-sided conversation that will magically be delivered to the girl you’re trying to reach.  And by doing so, you risk sounding like a rambling shithead and how can you ensure that the message will be delivered?  The solution: if the voicemail picks up, hang up and send a text instead.  This way, she’ll see your missed call and appreciate your effort.  Also, you get double reassurance with the missed call and text message.

Now, if a girl doesn’t return your message after that?  STOP CALLING.  She’d rather shampoo her hair than hang out with you.  Move on to your next target.

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