Also check out Miss Singlefied quoted in this Examiner article about how to make your NYE kiss special!
Your New Year’s resolution should include speed dating! Miss Singlefied recommends Hurry Date
2011 was a great year for Singlefied. We officially launched the blog, created great partnerships, attracted worthy attention from the press, started the successful show Ask Miss Singlefied, and ended the year with a sexy write-up on Jackfroot.com. But most importantly, we met you. Thank you for your support, feedback, stories and discussions. As a thank you, let’s review all the popular posts from 2011 that will make your dating life even better in 2012 [given that the world does not fucking end].
Who are you?
Get to know yourself: the good, the bad, the ugly.
How to stop being victimized as the nice guy.
Where are you?
With each new year means movement in your Dating Timeline.
Who are women?
How do women think differently.
How to talk to her.
How she becomes attracted to you.
How to handle hot, bitchy women.
How to tell when she’s truly interested.
How to handle rejection.
Why she swallows.
What do women like in bed?
Learn from porn for women.
How to keep your dick hard.
Tools of dating:
Handling the ex
Coping with heartbreak
The Creeper Sweeper
5 things that won’t get you another date
Curse of the buffet (dating too many women at once)
There is an interesting thing that happens when a guy is into a girl upon meeting her. He either thinks the girl is uninterested (by not picking up on any recognizable signals), or thinks the girl is totally interested when she’s not (by looking too hard for specific signals).
Girls are very tricky to read sometimes because we are affected by a thing called Feminine Skepticism. I call it, the “guilty until proven innocent” mindset. See, when you approach us, we’re already playing defense. We’re waiting for you to prove yourself – are you nice? Normal? Sweet? Stable? Funny? While we’re sizing you up as you deliver your case (in the dating court), every girl has a different way of hiding her feminine skepticism. I personally do the sarcastic raised eyebrows as if to say, “Yup, I’m listening but only because you’re still talking.” Other girls hide their skepticism with a smiley demeanor; they’re thinking they’re being nice while you might think she’s interested. I don’t envy you, we are confusing to read. An Indiana University research study had American subjects observe speed dating events in Germany to gauge the level of interest between the rotating couples. While most were correct at gauging male interest, “80 percent of the subjects thought the German women pictured were interested when they were just being sociable.”
So what are some signals that aren’t just social, polite behavior, but rather, signals of interest? Psychologists claim the following:
- Broad grin, showing all of her teeth
- Sing-songy tone of voice
- She mimics your stance and movements
- Intentional physical contact (I like to touch the shoulder, arm or knee)
- “A good one to watch for: After making eye contact, she looks down a bit, gathers or otherwise preens her hair, and then looks up at you while her chin is tipped.”
In the same study, men who showed interest did the following: drew attention to themselves with a loud laugh or spread their arms out side, grinned from ear-to-year, dropped their voice an octave, and also mimicked their partner’s stance and movements.
Gosh why do we heterosexuals make it so hard on ourselves? I wish we could be like gay men: make eye contact and it’s a done deal.
Happy Mardi Gras and International Women’s Day! In other words, HAPPY TITTIES DAY. Let’s do a little experiment. In the boobie collage below, choose your favorite pair of tits. GO!
You done yet? You want me to make it bigger? Fine, as you wish.
OK, a little boobie overload? Are you feeling dizzy? Did you initially choose a pair and then quickly change your mind when you spotted another pair that was overlooked? And after awhile, you’re confused because you’re not sure if the pair you like now is what you chose initially. You want to choose multiple pairs but you also know that some of them won’t look as good without a bra, but hey, you’re willing to chance it. But shit, you can only narrow it down to one pair for now. I dunno, go take a break rookie and rest your over-worked eyes.
I often say that NYC is a man’s playground. There’s…what…10 girls for every guy? Any Joe Schmoe from bumblefuck, Nebraska can step into a NYC bar and smang the shit out of some random chick that night. Lucky Joe Schmoe. Or is he really lucky?
The problem is, when we’re presented with too many options, we end up with what I call The Curse of the Buffet [dun dun dun]. Check it. I’m sure this has happened to many of you. You step into a buffet and get overly excited by the CHOICES of food. My strategy is always to take a lap first and then stop at what first catches my eye. Then…it happens. You start grabbing anything that looks
good edible. And by the end of your meal, you 1) have no idea what tasted the best and 2) feel like shit.
The same experience happens in online dating. Too many choices make you want to date many of your potential suitors, but in the end, you’re not sure who’s the best for you. Plus you’re stll alone.
Similar to that is speed dating. A recent article claims that speed dating rarely results in successful dating stories because people are presented with too many choices. Our brain can’t process that much information.
So, what’s our takeaway from this? I’d like to tell you, “Hey just stick to your first choice. That’s the person who caught your eye.” But it’s not that simple because the minute you choose her, your mind will be wondering about the girl next in line. My conclusion is that this is a good thing to know. Next time you’re alone on a Friday night bitching about how there are no quality girls to date and your standards are too high. Shut the fuck up. Stop playing the victim. Your own inability to narrow down even a pair of titties is the cause of your unhappiness.