When was the last time you had a sober first kiss?  I mean an organic, raw meeting of the lips without a drop of alcohol, or a puff, a syringe, a bump…or whatever your choice may be.   Think about it.  And then try to recall what it felt like.

I’m not going to bore you with all the stories I’ve been hearing in the last couple of years involving drunken first kisses, ultimately leading to dragged out relationships.  It happens.  And it happens to the best of us.

So, I’m here to start a revolution: #SoberFirstKiss.  My theory is that your first kiss with someone is the most telling of your chemistry with each other.  And chemistry is like food to any relationship.  Without it, a relationship will starve to death.  However, alcohol (and other fun enablers) impair our judgment.  At some point, drunken makeout sessions become more about occupying our mouths, as opposed to enjoying the person we’re swapping saliva with.

A sober first kiss is awkward, nerve-wracking, exciting, and RAW.  Your senses are heightened as you feel, in slow-mo, every touch, every moan, and every heart beat.  Frankly, you have plenty of time to decide whether you want to go through with the kiss or not.  I personally went through this a couple months ago.  It was like the climax of a typical romcom where our bodies gravitated closer, we decided who was going to take which side, and just as our lips were about to meet, I called “time out.”  I was extremely sober and I was extremely sure that I didn’t want to kiss him.  And we never saw each other again.  Now, if I had a couple mojitos in me, I’d probably still be trying to “make it work.”

The deal is, I think we waste too much time dating the wrong people, because we get off on the wrong foot (lip).  You get plenty of information about a person on a first date and you certainly get sufficient information from a sober first kiss.  So, let’s not fuck it up in the beginning.  There’s either chemistry or there isn’t.

Save time.  Save energy.  Save saliva.  #SoberFirstKiss.

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I first started Singlefied.com with no other intention but to help others and myself.  This journey has brought me inspiration, clarity, motivation and at times, frustration.  The most important thing I’ve come to realize is that healthy dating stems from healthy relationships with others; whether it’s your friendships, your interactions with your relatives, or even how you connect with the barista at Starbucks.

Next time you’re out in public, take a look around.  The person you’ve just made eye contact with (friend or stranger) has their own story, their own struggles and their own journey.  They’re also someone’s child, or parent, or mentor, or BFF.  Healthy dating stems from healthy relationships, and healthy relationships stem from healthy perceptions of others.  Let’s stop judging.  Or pitting ourselves against others.  How are we, as a society, suppose to move forward when we spend our time bringing others down?

The fundamental lesson in dating is how you connect with humans.  If you treat everyone with love, I guarantee you’d be pleasantly surprised at what you get back.

If you’re interested in reading more about my journey, check it out here.

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