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Ask Miss Singlefied: How to approach women? 3 effective ways and 3 no-no’s. (Coffee Meets Bagel edition)Posted: 10/26/2012 by Singlefied in Dating, How To, Pick-Up Strategies
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Ask Miss Singlefied: How to approach a girl without coming off creepy? (And why is she giving you so much attitude?)Posted: 05/01/2012 by Singlefied in Dating, How To, Pick-Up Strategies, Rejection
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DATING SURVEY RESULTS: Women Want Better Sex; Men Don’t Know What Women Want (And it May Not Matter)Posted: 02/10/2012 by Singlefied in Dating, How To, Pick-Up Strategies, Rejection, Uncategorized
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Results of the Dating Survey are in! We had 100 participants: 41% female and 59% male. The results are fascinating and somewhat surprising.
*In the survey, participants were asked to give their demographic info (age, location, occupation, employment status, relationship status and sexual preference) and then rank the following qualities in order of importance when evaluating a potential mate: Looks, Personality/Sense of Humor, Job/Salary, Intelligence/Education, and Good in Bed. Then they were asked to answer the same question according to how they think their opposite sex would respond (this question was added after the survey launched so 10% of participants did not get to answer this question).
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2011 was a great year for Singlefied. We officially launched the blog, created great partnerships, attracted worthy attention from the press, started the successful show Ask Miss Singlefied, and ended the year with a sexy write-up on Jackfroot.com. But most importantly, we met you. Thank you for your support, feedback, stories and discussions. As a thank you, let’s review all the popular posts from 2011 that will make your dating life even better in 2012 [given that the world does not fucking end].
Who are you?
Get to know yourself: the good, the bad, the ugly.
How to stop being victimized as the nice guy.
Where are you?
With each new year means movement in your Dating Timeline.
Who are women?
How do women think differently.
How to talk to her.
How she becomes attracted to you.
How to handle hot, bitchy women.
How to tell when she’s truly interested.
How to handle rejection.
Why she swallows.
What do women like in bed?
Learn from porn for women.
How to keep your dick hard.
Tools of dating:
Handling the ex
Coping with heartbreak
The Creeper Sweeper
5 things that won’t get you another date
Curse of the buffet (dating too many women at once)
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I was recently interviewed and profiled by JackFroot.com. I promised I wouldn’t hold anything back. And I didn’t…
Up Close and Personal with Miss Singlefied
STAN KARR YEUNG
If Will Smith’s character from the 2005 movie Hitch were a real person, he would be a she, and she would be Chinese and hot. Everything else is pretty much the same, minus the story line and plot, actually only the part where Hitch helps guys with dating advice is the same.
Read the rest here
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This is what I always hear from guys, “Yue, it’s very easy to find attractive women, but why is it so hard to have a decent conversation with any of them?” Sure, we can blame it on lack of brains and social prowess, getting by on looks alone, or overall disinterest in being interesting. But after taking this course about the art of conversation, I have to say that it’s because most people are terrible conversationalists! Including yours truly. And here’s how you know you are a great conversationalist: you never have a boring conversation.
Recently I discovered Life Labs, an organization that offers classes for adults beyond the classroom basics. As they put it, “We are an incubator for ideas on living wisely and well, offering courses, labs, and events for the common good.” Some of the courses include The Seeing Lab (detecting micro-expressions), The Coolness Lab (what makes someone cool?), and the course I took, The Yapper Lab (the art of conversation). Too bad they’re only offered in New York, but you could always request them in your town.
So is it possible to never have a boring conversation? Apparently so. And that’s why I’m going to share what I learned in class with you guys in The Art of Conversation series.
For this first post, let’s start with the “big picture.” Here are some tidbits to keep in mind every time you start a convo:
- View every conversation as an adventure
- A lot of guys view talking as a chore. That’s the wrong mindset, buddy. Conversing is a process of discovery. If you talk to every girl you meet as potentially the most fascinating conversation to be had, you’ll be excited to yapper.
- Your goal is to talk about something you’ve never talked about before
- Dating nowadays is like going on job interviews. The same topics are discussed over and over again. I remember going on a date once where this guy was literally like, “OK, so what’s your story? Where are you from? What do you do? Where did you go to school? Blah blah blah.” It made me wish I didn’t waste my time shaving my legs that day. Yes, these topics are the basics and should be discussed, but doesn’t all have to vomit out at once. A conversation is a free flow of information driven by topics. If “where are you from” leads to a conversation about racist blind people, then that’s what you should discuss. The fun part is to spontaneously end on something you’ve never talked about before – such as, well, racist blind people.
- Everyone is able to talk about something interesting – you just have to discover what “sparks” them
- In the class, the instructor showed us an observational study of a group of kids who didn’t know each other, socializing in a room. All the kids had pretty standard conversations with each other – favorite toy, favorite color, favorite teacher, etc. However, there was one 6-year-old girl, we’ll call her Suzie, who everyone enjoyed talking to. In fact, they all voted her as the person they liked talking to the most. What was Suzie’s secret? Suzie asked interesting “spark questions” that made the other kids more engaged, such as “When did you first know you were no longer a baby?” Suzie’s enticing questions stemmed from her natural curiosity and creative thinking.
- You don’t have to be interesting; you just have to be interested
- In today’s world of cell phones, iPads, iPods, the internet, humans are constantly competing for each others’ attention. People just want to be heard. In multiple research studies presented in the class, it showed that people enjoyed having conversations with those who seemed genuinely interested, even if they contributed little or no words. I find that on dates, we’re constantly trying to impress each other with how interesting we could be. The problem is, nothing gets heard. Don’t stress yourself out so much with trying to find the next interesting topic that will blow her mind. Sit back, relax, and just listen.
- A great conversationalist takes practice
- You’re not gonna be awesome overnight (stop crying). So, this week, I urge everyone to take the following challenge:
PRACTICE “STICKY EYES” – Make a point to notice the eye color of everyone you speak to. This is a precursor to showing you’re interested in what they’re talking about. But be careful, “sticky eyes” does not equate to “creeper eyes.” Staring? Baaad. Strong eye contact? Goood. Also, her eyes are up here.